Being invited into someone’s life, to share their struggles, hurts, dreams and hopes is not a burden but a true priviledge. Being invited into a streetlevel addicts home to share donuts and life struggles is a true trust. The hurts, regrets, and struggle to survive in the face of addiction, violence, poverty and an unhealthy community can leave you thinking what can really be done here anyway?
Last week I sat in a crack house and spoke with a man holding a baseball bat about life and Jesus. He said, “I’m going to come to the Marquee for your church some night, when things cool down here.” My reply was, “Why don’t we start something right here in your space? Why not find Jesus right here?”
“I pray for you, that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give to you the spirit of wisodm and revelation so that you may know Him.” – Eph. 1:16,17
What can you do when your dealing with addictions? What do you do when you need to make some core changes in your life? How do you look your self directly in the eye and see clearly the things that you are holding on to that are really bringing hurt, pain or simply holding you in unhealthy patterns of physical and spiritual life? What do YOU do?
– Pull up your Socks? I just need to try harder. Discipline myself. Get up earlier. Fight harder. Make better decisions in the moments. Think good thoughts. REALITY CHECK: The first step to any kind of change IS getting a clear picture/definition of the situation you’re stuck in; However, just to TRY harder brings only temporary results at it’s best. Self reliance is still reliance on the same old self.
– Build Some Fences? Join AA. Get an accountablity partner/team. Get a trustee. Put protective software on your computers. Go to jail. Go to a recovery program. Enter Rehab. Many of our struggles come by keeping addictions covered up or by only hanging out with those people, or elements that keep us close to our addiction and a sure way to fail. REALITY CHECK: Fences like recovery programs and accountablity partners are great fences- but honestly they are not enough to set us free. A man that I know who had three of his ‘accountablity’ partners leave their wives and kids by falling into sexual sin defined acountablity partners by saying, “It is when two guys sit down over coffee for an hour a week and lie to each other.” Some times it’s easier to stay in addiction because you are finding solace in ‘confession’ and not truly changing.
– Get Innovative? Move away. Develop a creative alternative. Find a new hobbie. Go for a run. Get a new job. Enter a new program. There are times in our lives when we need a new perspective and a fresh start in order to jump start a new pattern of behavior. REALITY CHECK: Often we discover that even though we have started a new pattern of behavior we still manifest the same habits of addiction only now attached to a different personality flaw.